Language will always yield intimacy and influence.
There is and must be a level of recognition that goes along with language. This goes deeper than why you can’t say that.
What is often not seen or noticed in these discourses is how essential these two things are: experience and context.
In this digital age, so much is lost but the most crucial is intimacy. It is this knowledge which determines the effect of language in situations and people.
You can’t say what I say because you don’t have experience and context. I believe that this is a reason why language is often referred to in a feminine context–things with feminine attributes are capable of growth or change.
Toni Morrison said that language is the measure of our lives. Perhaps this is so because it provides links to past, context to present and perspective to future.